Confidence, self-forgiveness, compassion, connectedness, or joy may be among the goals that you have for yourself or for a man who you love. While each sex has its own defining set of challenges and there is no cure-all, one possible explanation for difficulties in relating could regard differences in how men and women approach matters. Although over-generalizations can overlook a good number of contributing factors and a comprehensive look at your own dynamics would elucidate details, consider that men commonly approach matters from a solution-oriented mindset. This can lend to feelings of disconnection in relationships. More, men typically define themselves in a more isolated context than do women. Emotional isolation is a potential outcome. This common and natural approach employed by many men could in part be explained by a brief anthropological review.
The human race was once characterized in part by roles of hunters and gatherers. Obtaining and preparing nourishment was at the top of the priority list for everyone involved. Men were commonly split off into certain parts of the grounds as the group collectively strategized to bring home the hunt. Though working toward a common goal, man learned to identify chiefly as an isolated individual, somewhat cut off from the crowd. In addition to the individualism that was engendered in the evolution of the male, another facet to male psychology is one borne from the competitive spirit.
Many children learn how to interact with others through group sports. From an early age, boys may learn to define themselves based on their performance in competition. The higher performing boys are given more social status. As they enter a broader social dynamic, these young men are ascribed social status likewise for their social success. What could result from these dynamics is a man who is left feeling alone and trapped, confined to feeling confident only in the context of accomplishment. Fast forward to adult life, rife with a myriad of responsibilities and ever-increasing pressure, and the unfortunate high rates of depression, anxiety, suicide, substance abuse, and relationship problems for men is understandable. Ascher Medical Group works individually and in a group setting with men, helping them to explore new definitions of self, fostering a sense of wholeness, and engendering feelings of connectedness which they can translate to their personal lives.
